This is to all those beautiful women that Kappa Delta has brought into my life; for you I am forever grateful:
This weekend we had our New Member Retreat and it really hit me in the feels. I remember being in those chairs, being where they are right now and 1) thinking the senior girls were the coolest (and how now I’m in that position, and I wonder if they think I’m cool) and how I really didn’t know what I was doing in a sorority because well, I didn’t think it was for me.
I was never one to have a lot of girl friends or anything like that, and I didn’t even want to go through recruitment. Like, it wasn’t even on my radar but I thank the Lord that my good friend (Love you Hannah L) made me do it with her because Kappa Delta has truly impacted my life.
I just really can’t believe my time in KD is almost coming to an end; I can’t believe it would go by this fast. I have felt so loved and supported by this group of women and I can’t express how happy they have made my heart feel — they have loved me so well these past three years and my heart aches for these new members. It aches with the desire for them to experience what I have been given.
You can shrug off and scoff at these organizations. The media sure doesn’t make us look all that great, and there are so many negative stereotypes to being in a sorority— but the love that I feel for this group of women is beyond all of that. Kappa Delta has really helped shaped me into the person I am today. It has stretched me in ways that I did not want to be stretched (hellooo Step Team; BUT WE DID IT GUYS. I will never ever forget that feeling of winning 1st place and Grand Champs) but also given me so much confidence in myself and my abilities. I have met best friends who genuinely feel like my sisters. I share such an amazing bond with them and I can’t imagine life without them. I just can’t.
To be surrounded by women who share the same values, who are pursuing their goals and aspirations in life, who truly believe in you more than you believe in yourself, is priceless (so whoever says that we pay for our friends, just know I’m using the emoji hand wave at you right now.) I feel such a special affection for each and every one of my sisters that I’ve met, and how she has brought her unique contributions to Delta Iota in some way shape or form.
And I’m not gonna sugar coat it — if you haven’t thought about dropping at least once, you probably aren’t doing it right — because there will be times where you question if this is the right fit for you or not. But I promise, it is so worth it. Stick it out. True friendships take time to cultivate. Pour yourself into KD and she will do the same for you.
I love this new member period because it brings back a flood of tender memories — getting initiated, meeting my Big, getting my own littles and everything in between. Thank you KD, for giving me the opportunity to live with my best friend and to get to stand next to another best friend on one of the most important days of her life. Now I know why God didn’t give me a sister growing up — because He was saving that for college.
So yeah, I’ll take all the annoying GIN notifications, the long formal meetings, and the “I’m just here so I don’t get fined” moments — in the end, I think I’ll miss those too.
Ta Kala Diokomen Sistas’